Keeping Your Cool...When Your Anger Is Hot!: Practical Steps to Temper Fiery Emotions by
June HuntMy rating:
4 of 5 starsPretty good book dealing with anger and strategies for how to properly control and handle it. Learning to recognize our anger style and prepare ahead of time for how to handle it.
Lots of good quotes:
“Anger is a strong emotion of irritation, agitation, or hostility that occurs when a need or expectation is not met. Actually, anger is a
secondary response to something else – it’s an upsetting emotional reaction to an assumed ‘right’ that has been violated or not fulfilled.”
“When we
expect something, we feel we have the
right for that something to happen.”
“…revealing inappropriate efforts to get your needs met.”
“The problem arises when our expectations are consistently unmet over time.”
“We can keep from fanning the flames of frustration by surrendering all our unmet expectations to the perfect will of God, and recognizing He is in control of every circumstance and has a perfect plan for our lives. But until we let God’s will for us reign over our own will – based on our own expectations – that compromise will remain elusive, and our anger will continue to burn.”
“Many of us are…bent on control, and react with irrational anger when we don’t get our way.”
“If we really want to find freedom from destructive anger, a good place to start is relinquishing control of anything and everything around us.”
“Control is impossible.”
“It’s time to let God heal us of this need to be overcontrolling and the anger that comes with it when we don’t get our way. We must surrender our wishes and wants, our desires and demands to the sovereignty of our loving and compassionate God.”
“Control is God’s business, and not having this heavy responsibility is His gift to us.”
“…our God is sovereign. The earth is His and everything in it.
“Assuming the right to control our lives according to our own will is dangerous arrogance – and sinful pride.”
“No, it is not possible for us to control every facet of life. But the good news is that the Creator of the whole universe has promised to do it for us.”
“You can’t control it anyway, so trust your Father to provide.”
“Let go, and release the stress and tension that accompanies the need to control.”
“Step 1: Ask – Can I change this situation?
Step 2: Action – If you
can,
change it. If you
can’t,
release it.”
“The ultimate purpose of our fiery trials is to clear away everything holding us back from a more mature, more empowered walk with Christ.”
“Our goal is always to be more like Christ, putting others first, looking out for the interests of others, not pushing our own rights.”
“We can deceive ourselves by creating a smoke screen that makes us feel like we can change others. But we don’t have the ability to change others. In fact, we don’t even have the ability to truly change ourselves through our own will, strength, or desire. Change comes through our dependence on God’s grace to transform lives – both ours and others.”